Love and Light to you all. In my normal light worker way I would first like to tell you to keep your thoughts positive and your heart full of LOVE. With this proper mind state, you can start to transform your world and lose the negativity that affects us all. Blessed Be.
My daughter is 5. She does know how to use to toilette but I've never considered her potty trained. She has ALWAYS had to touch me on the side or the shoulder, being non-verbal, to get the response from me to tell her to go to the bathroom. As of late, she has not wanted to ask this way, I'm sure out of laziness, and often wets herself. Most parents of autistic children verbal or not have to deal more with potty training issues and buy diapers for many more years than parents of normal children. My parents went through the same thing with me. There is a connection problem in the brain between the signals the lower body sends out and the brain telling the person to go and use the bathroom. The only thing I can say that corrects this issue, is the same answer to many other autistic issues, repetition and patience. It took my parents longer with me, as it did me with my son, but eventually we got it right. I'm sure my daughter will be the same way. Some autistic parents out there have children in their teens that still haven't made that connection in their heads. Continued persistence and patience is the only thing. Don't give up. Keep explaining to them. Keep helping them. Above and beyond all, keep LOVING them. The creator in the heavens wants us to have this extended learning experience, to make us more loving parents than many are nowadays. We must never give up on our goal of making these children something the world will be proud of, instead of just considering them a burden to society. All my love to you and your families. Happy Holidays