God's Love Shines down on us all

God's Love Shines down on us all
I Love You All, Blessed Be

Sunday, November 22, 2009

Explaining Death to your children

I read a status on facebook this morning about someone trying to figure out how to explain the death of someone close to them to their child. The post touched my heart and I decided to write about my own experiences hoping that in some small way it might help. I've always had a deep love for animals and my parents always allowed me to have many kinds of pets as a child. Whenever one would pass on it would always break my heart and cause a day to a week of mourning and depression. My mother had a talk with me about the natural order of things in this world, explaining to me as anyone would to a child, about how things are born, grow, and eventually die in the normal cycle of life. I think that this is the best way to handle this subject and I have done the same with my son. He hasn't reached the point yet in his life of a first mourning experience but when he does, he is already prepared for it by my talks and I will be there for him as any parent would. Everything revolves in a circle. From the atoms inside of a cell all the way up to the earth revolving around the sun and beyond. Everything is made up of simple energy which never dies. Death is just another part of the circle but the soul goes on in the form of energy. I still miss loved ones that have left me, but I know that they continue on in energy form and their memory lives forever in my mind and heart. Now your beliefs do not have to be the same as mine and of course you can explain it to your children in the way that you feel is best, but it is better to explain these things to them, for you can not stop this experience from happening to them, and when it does the best thing you can do is talk to them and show them love. When John Lennon left this earth it was extremely hard from me to bear as a young child. My mother showed her love by comforting me, talking to me as she always has, and baking me a cake to make me feel better. It is amazing how the smell of something cooking can lift the spirit of someone. I don't know if anything I've wrote here has helped any of you, but I hope that it does. All my love to you and your children my friends. Namaste.

1 comment:

  1. Yes, Scott, this is an important subject to discuss; one I hope that touches few.

    We lost our little girl at the age of 13-1/2 (minus one day) in December 2006. Our sons were 15, 11, 10 & 8 at the time. How does one prepare a child for the death of their sibling; I myself had never known the death of anyone so close to me let alone my child.

    All the adages one hears about how a parent should never know the loss of a child before themselves could not be more true.

    One of the very special gestures that has helped us stems from a poem:
    Pennies From Heaven...
    Where the pennies one finds are not simply discarded, but are tossed down from angels above who are thinking of us too.
    We taped a penny to our little girl's palm in the hospital. From that time onwards, our children - we ourselves, our daughter's teachers - all who loved her each tell us that they are constantly finding spare change.

    Once our youngest son, on the way home from school, found a coin with the image of an angel on one side and the inscription, "Always with you" on the reverse.

    These are God moments. There is no doubt in my mind that though out of sight, our loved ones remain with us.

    I don't know that there are any right avenues to deal with death other than honestly, gently and by keeping the spirit of the person alive within our hearts.

    Blessings to all,

    Mom to Samantha ^j^
    Administrator for Tetrasomy 18p Canada
    "Samantha's Syndrome"