tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1269967826981020661.post7608259214720961774..comments2023-10-09T09:21:05.001-05:00Comments on Confessions of an Aspergian: Explaining Death to your childrenScottCrawleyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13996310174754025444noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1269967826981020661.post-2712524549220438622009-11-22T11:48:25.052-06:002009-11-22T11:48:25.052-06:00Yes, Scott, this is an important subject to discus...Yes, Scott, this is an important subject to discuss; one I hope that touches few.<br /><br />We lost our little girl at the age of 13-1/2 (minus one day) in December 2006. Our sons were 15, 11, 10 & 8 at the time. How does one prepare a child for the death of their sibling; I myself had never known the death of anyone so close to me let alone my child. <br /><br />All the adages one hears about how a parent should never know the loss of a child before themselves could not be more true.<br /><br />One of the very special gestures that has helped us stems from a poem: <br />Pennies From Heaven...<br />Where the pennies one finds are not simply discarded, but are tossed down from angels above who are thinking of us too.<br />We taped a penny to our little girl's palm in the hospital. From that time onwards, our children - we ourselves, our daughter's teachers - all who loved her each tell us that they are constantly finding spare change. <br /><br />Once our youngest son, on the way home from school, found a coin with the image of an angel on one side and the inscription, "Always with you" on the reverse.<br /><br />These are God moments. There is no doubt in my mind that though out of sight, our loved ones remain with us.<br /><br />I don't know that there are any right avenues to deal with death other than honestly, gently and by keeping the spirit of the person alive within our hearts.<br /><br />Blessings to all,<br /><br />Velvet<br />Mom to Samantha ^j^<br />Administrator for Tetrasomy 18p Canada<br />http://www.tetrasomy18p.ca/<br />"Samantha's Syndrome"Velvet Martinhttp://www.tetrasomy18p.ca/noreply@blogger.com