Answers for an Anonymous Comment

Hi everybody. I received an anonymous comment on an earlier posting and Lisa Brennan along with myself left replies. I want to share them with you all. Enjoy!

Anonymous said...
It sounds to me that the writing may be helping in some ways but then you ramble on about other people and it seems to me that you are controlling your mother and her friends but you cant control your own feelings and emotions and life in general. If your father has the same problems as you do how can you blame him for things he says when it doesnt look like you care about what you say to other people. It seems as though you have very understanding parents to have put up with all of the things you are going through and to help you with your children so to me you should be concentrating on you and not them or what they are doing. Be thankful that you have parents like that because most people dont.
September 10, 2009 10:42 PM
Lisa Brennan said...
This is to Anonymous. First I am not trying to condemn you in any way. Second People with autism can't help how they feel. They don't control anyone, however, they are very ritualistic. They are not AS stressed of everything remains the same. They live my schedules and routine. So saying that, for you to say Scott is trying to control his parents shows you know little and have learned little from Scott's post. You might want to also read some of John Elder Robinson's post on Facebook. He too suffers from Asperger's. I have a son who suffers from Asperger's. People with Autism can't deal with change. The real world does not accept people with autism but they need this acceptance. I am fighting the school right now for my son. They just do not seem to get it even though they say they do. They do not understand the a color, a sound, a smell, a weird look, or a simple joke could send people with any form of autism in a tailspin and more times that once they start a downward spiral there is no turning back...they are heading to the hospital with a major breakdown. Autism is caused by a mutated chromosome. This makes the brain in an infant and toddler grow faster than it should which makes cells go to wrong places in the brain. This causes them to see everything different than normal people. This also causes health problems from acid reflux (which could cause cancer) to immune disorders, migraines, asthma, major allergies, major depression, major anxiety disorder (to the point they are unable to leave the house for any reason), OCD, oppositional defiant disorder, and may other problems. The biggest problem in the medical community is that,since all forms of Autism are caused by a mutated chromosome, these people are not being properly treated. As of now most have to seek treatment at a mental health clinic or a private psychiatrist. They are at the mercy of the system when they should be treated by a neurologist. I ask you from this point to learn and listen. Research autism and asperger's and every form of autism there is. Learn as much as you can learn. Then stand up for them and more so stand up for the children. Also I would like to ask why you hide who you are? Why can't you let us know who you are? What are you scared of? It would seem to me that you may have some issues that need to be addressed by a mental health professional.
September 11, 2009 7:45 AM
ScottCrawley said...
Anonymous, my first reply to you is, I can't help but to ramble sometimes it is part of my Aspergian issues and it's just who I am. Sorry. Next, I am not trying to control anyone, I had a long TALK with both of my parents and they agreed that this was the right course to go to try and help HEAL our family. My mother did not agree with how my writing to Angie seemed rude and provoking, but Angie is the type of person who 100% speaks her mind and thinks She is always right. She always tells my mom that she wishes my brother was dead, he used to be married to her and they had a kid together. But this is my moms child and I know it hurts her to hear someone say that. She is always talking bad about me, My moms siblings, my dad, and others to my mom. My mom HATES swearing totally and it bothers her when people don't show enough respect to not use those words when they are talking to her. Angie doesn't care. She has always said anything she wants without showing my mom respect and that hurts her. I can't control my own feelings or my oddities. It is part of my Aspergers. I love my father even though my whole life he has NEVER returned that love and is very selfish only thinking of his own feelings and desires. Since I've been back with my parents they both help to spend the money that is supposed to be for me and my children. My dad eats our food if it is something he likes. But if I touch anything of his he goes through the roof. When I write my postings and even things on facebook I am CONSTANTLY scared that I am going to hurt someone. But I feel being completely open and honest gives the world a better understanding of me and I wish more people could be like that. And I do make mistakes just like everyone on the planet. I care deeply about what I say to others and I'm only trying to help the world understand autism better. Yes I do have a VERY loving and understanding mother. She's never been able to relate or understand the serious condition I have but she's always been there for me. My father is not the least bit understanding unless you're referring to his wants and desires. Anyone that knows me or associates with me has to put up with me. Hey, so do you to a certain extent if you're reading my writings. My parents are old and they would be the first to tell you that the only one to EVER take care of these kids is me and that I'm the best Father in the world. I do receive help from time to time, but my mother has said she couldn't handle it on her own and she is very proud of me. I hope I have given you a better understanding of me and my family. Yes, if I am hospitalized my mom can take over the responsibilities of the kids. She is VERY strong. But even though I was born with bad knees, had four surgeries on them and need a fifth, I am still the type to bathe my kids even though it causes me great knee pain and they've even given out on me and I've fallen in the tub scraping, soaking, and bruising myself up. I picked myself back up and continued to bathe. It's my job. I am strong even though my body is falling apart on me day by day. I will never quit, and don't you ever try to say I'm a bad parent again!